Enough with the “rules”

You’re not wrong for breaking them

You know what true personal power is?

It’s giving the middle finger to the “rules” on how you’re “supposed” to:

• Make everyone around you comfortable

• Be agreeable

• Always say yes to every favor or request made to you

• Be available at all times

• “Behave yourself”

• Work long, hard hours like a good person

• Don’t ask for too much

• Never question authority

Does this list make you want to vomit? Maybe even just a little?

Maybe it’s just me, but I’ve developed a super sensitive gag reflex to rules that question my inner authority and capacity.

My inner authority is not up for negotiation.

My capacity is sacred.

Hands. off.

The problem with these kinds of rules is that they induce shame, because shame is what keeps you in line.

Shame ensures that you sacrifice your:

• Time

• Energy

• Capacity

• True feelings

• Needs

• Money and other resources

Don’t these things seem kinda… important?

Shame is a story about how you’re wrong as a person. Your feelings are wrong. Your attitude is wrong. Your needs are wrong. Shame is a viewpoint about how you’re supposed to be—followed by a feeling of wrongness.

What do people who feel “wrong” do?

They contract, question themselves, and tuck their tail between their legs.

Well, well, well. Isn’t that convenient for the people who wrote the rules!

Enough with the stupid. fucking. rules.

True power is taking a risk on yourself.

It’s choosing to “misbehave” at the risk of upsetting someone, inconveniencing someone, or making someone uncomfortable.

True power is a willingness to be judged for burning the rule book.

• Have you taken a moment to question the rules lately?

• What is ONE rule you can let go of this week?

• What are you willing to risk?

Question the Rules

I didn’t get where I am today because I followed the rules.

You know what I was taught?

• Be sweet

• You deserve to be yelled at

• You earned this punishment

• Don’t get mad

• Work hard and never rest

• You’re going to hell if you don’t repent

• Obey the authority figures

I ain’t obeying shit.

Following the rules might seem easier. But over time, it catches up with you. Years of ignoring your needs and capacity take a toll. Trust me as someone whose rule-following broke her body.

I learned the hard way.

But you don’t have to.

It’s never too late to drop the rules and trust your inner guidance above all.

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